If you know someone, and they claim to genuinely love you; that means they would likely not have the audacity to hurt you emotionally, mentally, or physically. Here are some examples of what real love isn’t:
*They gaslight you.
*They steal from you often.
*They tend to lie to you more than to tell the truth.
*They view material things such as money more important than you.
*When you are sick or ill, they have no problem abandoning you, or making you feel like a burden.
*They are jealous of your friends or children.
*When you are ’emotional’, they dismiss your feelings completely.
*They have no problem hurting you.
*They belittle you to your face or to others
*They blame you for everything, including their own faults
*You aren’t allowed to be free, only they are
*They treat you lesser than
*They control your life; like how to eat, how much you should weigh, how you should look, how you should dress, etc.
*They never compliment you
*They know and purposely find ways to trigger you
*They rarely spend time with you, or even reach out
*They’d rather talk about inappropriate subjects, such as sex, than normal everyday life
*You find yourself feeling more caring and in-tune to what is going on in the relationship than them
*You find yourself being more of the giver than receiver
*They paint you in a poor light
*You’re life means nothing to them
*You give up almost everything to make them happy
*They cheat on you behind your back, but get upset if you even say one word to someone else
*When you are in dire need of help; they block you or ignore you instead of reaching out
*You have to conform to their beliefs. Yours are irrelevant
*When you open up to them about how you feel, they tell you such things as ‘get over it’ or ‘others have it worse’
*They put everyone else before you
*You feel as though you are under their surveillance 24/7
*They’d rather see you fail in life than win
*They would rather play mind games than fix the problem
-Chelsea Renee Martin